Love Yourself First

Love Yourself First

Has anyone ever told you to love yourself first? If not, I’m now telling you to love yourself first girl‼ What does that even mean right? It means to love yourself above all always and don’t let anyone change that. Do you have a good friend? Like, she’s really sis and no one can get in between your bond. You have to love yourself like that! Don’t let anyone come in between your bond with yourself.

So, what does loving yourself first look like?

1.     It looks like self-care.

 Download the selfish babe app and turn your notifications on. The app will send you daily affirmations and reminders to love yourself always. Another cool thing about the app that I love is the fact that there are challenges and etc. to aid in growth along your self-love journey. Selfish babe app is literally my go-to app for a little inspiration and for when I need that reminder that I am beautiful. Being sick sometimes it definitely gets hard to remember how wonderful I am, but this app always brings me back to life! We have to ignore the inner critic when she is being mean, utilize that inner critic as a tool for applicable journeys. For your self-love journey, she’s no good if she has nothing nice to say!

2.     Its ok to say no

Much too often ESPECIALLY females, we tend to others needs more than our own. If you need rest then rest, don’t sign up to help a friend with her hair when you know your body needs sleep/rest. Sometimes we simply feel bad for saying no but when you can’t do it you can’t do it. People don’t have to respect that or understand, whether they do, or don’t it doesn’t matter. People will come and go but you will always have to deal with yourself. Know that choosing to love yourself first won’t be easy, some people may talk about you but look, self-care is selfish and give yourself the permission to be selfish with your time and your energy. Spend it how you’d like because you can’t get it back.

3.     It’s not just about loving yourself it’s about loving yourself first always

What does that mean? It means always putting yourself and your needs first and doing so without feeling bad for it. Females are naturally nurturers and caregivers so use that to take care of you. If you don’t know what that looks like, then spend some time with yourself to figure it out. Do things that you like to do and enjoy alone time, it’s some of the best time. Identify your support system and know who you can go to when you need a break. Acceptance is key, accept when you don’t look your best or when you can’t do things you’d typically be doing. Being sick pushed me into a corner where I had no choice but to always accept myself and it only made me love myself more and actually realize how beautiful I truly am. I want the same for every lady on this earth. Once you’re comfortable with yourself no one can make you uncomfortable about any of your qualities.

4.     Do you love yourself?

You may say of course I do MJ what do you mean? But its ok to not be where you feel like you should be in your self-love journey. Remember, acceptance is key if you’re going to love yourself first you have to be honest with yourself. We live in an era where social media can be so misleading. Don’t compare yourself to anyone because you are not anyone but yourself. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself and doing so over and over. Know your worth and add tax, we accept the love and treatment we think we deserve. So, know that you deserve the world and you’re worth more than gold. If there are any unhealthy relationships in your life, gut them out! You deserve the best and nothing less, sometimes that includes family and longtime friends. Trust me when I tell you it’s way more important to protect your peace and there’s nothing wrong with loving people from a distance.

Whew, I think I’ve dropped enough gems for today. Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @bossladypreneur and head on over to the freebies section for some gifts to help you along your self-love journey.